In a world that constantly demands our strength, Black women are often expected to be invincible—the backbone, the savior, the strong one.
But what happens when that expectation leaves no room for our softness, no space for our vulnerability, no pause for our healing?
During our recent Emotional Regulation & Healing Workshop, we explored what it truly means to reclaim our emotional space:
— To name our emotions without shame.
— To set boundaries around our energy without apology.
— To revolt against a system that glorifies our exhaustion.
— To heal in a way that honors all parts of ourselves.
The History That Shaped Our Emotional Wounds
We cannot fully heal without understanding how we arrived here.
Throughout history—from enslavement to today’s workplace politics—Black women have been weaponized as symbols of strength, endurance, and sacrifice.
Often positioned as the “leaders” or the “menders” of fractured spaces, we were rarely given permission to fully feel grief, softness, or rage.
This generational inheritance has left a deep impact:
- Emotional suppression became survival.
- Resilience became currency.
- Vulnerability was framed as weakness.
But we are no longer in survival mode.
We are allowed to live.
What Emotional Reclamation Looks Like Today
- Naming Our Feelings — Using practices like “Name It to Tame It” and the Wheel of Emotions to check in with ourselves.
- Somatic Healing — Moving stuck emotions out of the body through shaking, breathwork, and body mapping.
- Boundary Building — Protecting our peace, saying no without guilt, and refusing to be everyone’s emotional landing pad.
- Rest and Joy as Resistance — Choosing rest, laughter, stillness, and creativity as revolutionary acts of self-love.
Emotional regulation is not about controlling emotions.
It’s about being in loving relationship with them—listening, witnessing, and honoring them without letting them consume us.
Revolting Through Softness
One of the most radical things a Black woman can do today is to choose softness.
To resist the expectation of endless resilience.
To cry when needed. To rest without guilt.
To find healing and belonging within herself before giving to others.
Softness is not weakness.
Softness is power reclaimed.
Continue Your Healing Journey
If you’re ready to go deeper, you can start by nurturing your emotional world with daily practices.
My guided journal, The Healing Path to True Authenticity, was created for moments just like these—to help you reconnect with your inner self, one page at a time.
Thank you for being part of this healing movement.
Thank you for choosing yourself.
Your emotions are sacred. Your healing is inevitable. 🌿
Until next time,
Tishona
Selfie Care Therapy
Beneath The Skin 
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